This is not going to be a happy post.
In my ongoing search for Thomas James Molloy who married Philomene Alexandre, I contacted a Find a Grave member because he had this headstone.
It’s the headstone of John Molloy (Malloy) who was Thomas James Malloy’s brother. Maybe he was somewhat related to the Malloys so I wrote him a message.
I wanted permission to use it on Ancestry and on this blog.
Little did I know that…
This is the biography he wrote..
To see contributors relying on eighty year old data based SOLELY upon what what was transcribed decades ago is not what I believe Find A Grave is about. They duplicate memorials because the data they based their memorials upon is abundant with misspellings. Memorials that read Name “Unknown” — Date of Birth “Unknown” — Date of Death “Unknown” — Cemetery “Unknown.” What benefit is that entry to the viewer? Tens of thousands of memorials with a couple hundred photographs, and few if any links to family members to me signals a problem.
Considering this, I couldn’t agree more with the following statement I saw on a fellow contributor’s profile.
“I think it is a real shame what findagrave has evolved into. What started as a noble way to link people with graves of loved ones they could never hope to see, and with the generations that had preceded them, has turned into a game for some. Memorials have turned into a kind of “trading card”, a competition of who can own the most memorials and post the highest numbers. What has been forgotten by many is that these were people, loved in life and death, not a commodity to be traded or owned.
With my apologies to those that have pure motives. I hope there are more of us than there are of them.”
His widow is the one who contacted me.
I am writing to inform you that John past away two months ago. I am his wife and I do not have an issue with you using the picture or writing about what John wrote on your blog.